Why Men Wont Commit: Getting What You Both Want Without Playing Games by George WeinbergA provocative book that explains why men are so afraid of commitment -- and what women can do about it.
Why is it so hard for a man to say I love you? Why is it so hard for a man to ask a woman to marry him, even if this is exactly what he wants? Women work hard at relationships but all too often, just when things seem to be going well, men tend to pull away, cheating themselves out of the happiness they really want...and leaving women feeling hurt and confused. It doesnt have to be that way.
In Why Men Wont Commit, celebrated psychologist Dr. George Weinberg explains the secret fears that make men run away from relationships and the simple things that women can do to overcome them. Men want lasting relationships just as much as women do, but they fear that commitment means loss -- most of all, the loss of masculinity. Men are far more fearful and insecure than most women imagine, with the same basic needs dictating their behavior:
• The need to be special.
• The need to travel light -- to minimize obligations and maximize independence.
• The need for loyalty.
• The need to be close emotionally, whether or not they can ask for it.
Once women understand these needs, they can help men see that commitment is a strength, and not a weakness. Why Men Wont Commit will show women how to enter places where her man has not allowed any other woman to go...and stay there in a loving, committed relationship.
Why He Won’t Commit And What To Do About It
It's easy to get caught up in matters of the heart. And by "matters of the heart," I mean "all that messy, human, unrequited love bullshit. Here are the most commonly misinterpreted reasons a guy doesn't want to settle down with you. You think: "The timing just isn't right. Would you turn down a steak dinner because you'd rather eat in an hour? Has there ever really been a "bad" time to drink water, something your body needs to survive? Yeah, sure, hypothetically there's a bad time for all these things, but my point is, if something is good, you'll make it work, but you might not go out of your way for something OK.
The man who can commit is the confident one. The man who cannot is the insecure one. He feels positive about who he is and knows that he has a lot to offer. He views women as equals and appreciates the relationships he has with them. His view points of women skew negatively, and his experiences with relationships range from bad to horrific. He's content with competing with himself to be a better guy. He moves on.
Subscribe To Our Newsletter! In all honesty, he may have tried to convince himself of this, too. If you happen to spot a photo of his ex tucked back in his drawer somewhere or even a gift or two lying around, you better ask yourself seriously if this man is over his ex. Some relationship breakups sting badly. Of course, this depends on the circumstances surrounding his ex. This is a tough one, and if you can muster the patience, you might be able to wait around for him to figure it out. This is a truly hurtful reason.
If you have heard yourself say: “He wouldn't commit in the past, but I'm different. I can help him learn to love” -- pinch yourself.
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Guys, sorry, but one of us has to put an end all these articles assuming on why we are incapable of having a committed relationship. Most of these write-ups have been done by the female gender, and most of them have some good points, but in this letter I will let all you ladies in on what really goes on in our brains. I get it, things have been going great, like really great. We hangout all the time, you know all the guys, I kind of know your girls, and the sex is great. We even have had the talk, well YOU have had the talk with me. And for guys everywhere that do this to you, I am sorry.
I once dated a guy for five months who refused to call me his girlfriend, but who also told me verbatim that's basically what I was. We went on vacations together. I was his plus-one at weddings. He insisted on meeting my parents, and he introduced me to his sister. I was even on email chains with his co-workers and his best friend.