Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Barbara SteffensSexual addictions and compulsive sexual behavior are growing societal problems, with as many as three to six percent of the world population affected. Your Sexually Addicted Partner shatters the stigma and shame that millions of men and women carry when their partners are sexually addicted. They receive little empathy for their pain, which means they suffer alone, often shocked and isolated by the trauma. Barbara Steffens groundbreaking new research shows that partners are not codependents but post-traumatic stress victims, while Marsha Means personal experience provides insights, strategies, and critical steps to recognize, deal with, and heal partners of sexually addicted relationships. Firsthand accounts and stories reveal the impact of this addiction on survivors lives. Chapters end with “On a Personal Note” questions and propose new paths that lead from trauma to empowerment, health, and hope. Useful appendices list health and mental health care providers and clergy.
Can You Be Addicted to Your Wife?
Early on in a relationship, the sex is new and exciting and awesome. And you want it all. You want it when you want it, and damn the consequences. We only dated for a few months before we got married, so basically I was still in sex-addict mode myself when I promised to love him until I died. My ex-husband truly believed he owned my body and that I was in the wrong if I ever denied him access. He told me that he was being respectful by only wanting it daily, because he thought three times a day or more would be a good amount, but even he realized that was a bit much to ask of a wife. He was being really respectful of me!
A recovering sexual addict answers questions common to the wives of men who struggle with the same sin. But her picture-perfect life came crashing down around her when her husband confessed to a decades-long struggle with sexual addiction—a secret life that included infidelity and an obsession with pornography. As part of her journey through forgiveness and healing, Meg started a support group for women whose husbands struggle with sexual addiction.
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Here are 7 helpful things every spouse should know about sex addiction.
A few years ago, Dr. Jennifer Schneider, Dr. Charles Samenow, and I conducted a study of betrayed partners of sex addicts to learn more about the ways in which sexual addiction damages not only their relationships, but their emotions. Other research has reached similar conclusions. Typically, this manifested in one or more of the following ways:.
You've been hanging out with this guy for a while and everything is great. That's what you tell people. The truth is, everything is not so great. Things he says and does don't add up. When you're together, there is often something forced, even fake, about how he relates to you.